Do We Need More Sex?

Posted on 10th June 2015 | Category: CBT, News

Sex can seem like everything. In today’s world of advertising and the big sell, it can seem like the more successful, beautiful and wonderful we are, the more sex we should be having. But is this actually the case? Does sex equal happiness and does intercourse actually play that big a part in the emotional make up of our well-being?

It looks like a team of researchers have looked into this issue and have found that more sex does not actually increase happiness. They even went on to find that when they asked subjects to increase their levels of sexual intercourse, this actually made them want sex less in the long term. However the most interesting result of this research has to be that high levels of sexual congress are not in fact the key to happiness in today’s world.

Often the case is actually that when people are at their happiest, particularly men, then they have more sex. Happiness is often accompanied by improved confidence, an ability to react well to social cues and is more often than not linked to having a good, responsive social circle in which the individual is well liked and supported.

In our modern society we can be too obsessed by sex. Often this is because an identity is presented by the media where we feel like we should be having a large amount of sex in order to be happy. The truth is that as a country the UK is having less intercourse than in previous generations and sex can be used as a tool of social empowerment and status. As a result people are inclined to believe that having more sex is a sign of status and achievement, and therefore they must be happy. However, contentment and happiness is much more complex than simple physical pleasures and one does not necessarily follow the other.

Is there a certain sense of spiritual and emotional fulfilment that is gained by having sex? Are we as individuals wound up or naturally inhibited when we have no sex? Unfortunately the study does not touch upon this matter, although it does seem to be common thinking that sex satisfies a primal human need and can lead to us being more relaxed and in tune with ourselves.

If you would like to look at your own levels of happiness it is often better to look at your entire life in a holistic manner and ask yourself questions about the levels of stress you’re facing and how you’re currently relaxing and meeting your life goals. Ultimately a mixture of CBT, mindfulness and hypnotherapy could help you develop more realistic strategies to long term happiness than trying to fulfil yourself with sex.