Is it Good Enough?

Posted on 7th April 2015 | Category: CBT

Do we cause ourselves trouble when we strive for the unobtainable? Are perfectionists inherently sad because they can never quite achieve their goals? Even though we’ve often been told to reach for the skies in everything we do, it looks like Barry Schwartz, the famous American psychologist has a different view.

Schwartz’s views, which are explored in this article in popular US website the Atlantic, seem to run counter to those that we should always seek the very best for ourselves. He suggests that when we have too much exposure to the good things in life this can actually have a detrimental effect as we no longer enjoy the simple things.

There are two types of people – those who try to make the best out of the situation they have in front of them, who are known as satisfiers, and those who truly have to have the very best of everything are called maximisers. Do you recognise yourself in one of these categories?

One of the problems with modern society is that we are constantly being bombarded with upgraded technology, new fashions and exciting new products. These are all backed by high powered advertising campaigns that know exactly how to get into your mind. Whilst it may have been possible to have the best of everything two hundred years ago, today we are only going to become unhappy trying to keep up with the times.

How often do we purchase the latest telephone only to find out that a few months later it has been superseded by a more exciting, more powerful model? All too often this can create disappointment and unhappiness – which is so common it has the name of buyer’s remorse in popular culture.

The truth is that most of us could get by with the computer that we had in the 1990s and the phone we had in the year 2000. It is only because companies know how to play upon this feeling that many of us have to want the best for ourselves that there is this burgeoning commercial culture. Often entrepreneurs and people who buy into this kind of pattern for success actually feel the emptiest inside.

Obviously hypnotherapy can help change your life view and what you want for yourself. Sometimes wanting the best for yourself can actually be a reflection of a feeling of inferiority or that we are not actually good enough for life – a compensatory mechanism. By using this therapy alongside a system of CBT and mindfulness you can take better stock of where you are at any given moment in life.

This can help you retrain your expectations to the point where you can be more satisfied with the simple pleasures in life without impacting on your ambition or ability to succeed. In the first instance why not book a free consultation appointment where we can go through your current situation and talk about the different options available to you.